October 14, 2026
How to Talk to Your Partner About Trying New Sex Positions
Bringing up something new in bed can feel awkward. Here is how to start the conversation, keep it light and make sure you both feel comfortable.
Why It Feels Awkward, and Why It Helps
Many people feel shy talking about sex, afraid of sounding critical or of being judged. But couples who talk about what they like usually feel closer and more satisfied, because nobody has to guess. Think of the conversation as an invitation to explore together, not as a review of what has been happening.
Pick the Right Moment
The bedroom in the middle of things is rarely the best time. Choose a relaxed moment, such as over dinner, on a walk or while cuddling, when neither of you is tired or stressed. Starting with something positive, like what you enjoy about your time together, sets a warm tone before you bring up something new.
Use Curiosity, Not Criticism
Phrases like "I would love to try" or "What do you think about" invite your partner in, while "you never" or "why don't you" can feel like blame. Share something you enjoy before asking for something new, and be ready to hear their ideas too. A guide with simple descriptions can make suggestions less personal and more fun.
Start Small and Check In
You do not need to jump to an acrobatic position. Try a small change to something familiar, such as adding a pillow under the hips in Missionary or turning to Side-Lying or Spooning for something slower. During the moment, a quiet question like "is this good?" or a pause to adjust keeps things comfortable.
Respect a No
Consent works both ways and continues throughout. If your partner is not interested in something, accept it without pressure or sulking, and ask what they would prefer instead. Feeling safe saying no is what makes it possible to say yes with enthusiasm, and it builds trust that keeps the conversation open.
Make It a Habit
One conversation will not cover everything. Short, regular check-ins, a few minutes now and then about what you enjoyed and what you would like to try, keep intimacy fresh without pressure. Over time, talking about it becomes natural and even adds to the fun.
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